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  Elders and spying eyes

  by Crazyguy in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  is it normal for the elders in your congregation to spy on you through your wife?

  texting her to see whats up with you and what your doing or saying etc.

  using her as the in house spy???

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  troubled mind

  The only reason Elders get away with this kind of crap is because enough people allow it it ,and don't stand up to them .

  You first need to have an understanding with your wife as others have stated above . She should not share family business with these men about you . It is in their own publications that the husband is the head of the household ,even IF he is an unbeliever .They may use the excuse they are looking out for her spiritual interests ,but this is a lie because they could do that without interrogating her about you . You need to immediately contact them and forbid this kind of behavior . Call HQ if necessary stating these men are causing division within the household and are over-stepping the bounds with your wife .

  Even if they argue that they are only sheparding her ,if you speak up and make it known to the CO,DO,or HQ they will be forced to watch their selves from here on out .
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  Anyone here close to Grace Gough/Mouthy?

  by satinka in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  if anyone knows mouthy/grace gough, it would be awesome if someone would look in on her.

  she is feeling the effects of the ice storm and is all alone and it is christmas eve.

  i just sent her an email and received this reply back:.

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  troubled mind

  Happy New Year Grace ! May your TV never lose power again !
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  Naughtiness in my bathroom

  by usualusername in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have some guests coming over to spend xmas with me for a couple of days.

  they are my friends family and i have a larger place than them and am playing host.. dilemma.

  they are christians and i have some postcards in my bathroom that are slightly naughty.

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  troubled mind

  You are asking so obviously you must have an inkling they are inappropriate for your guests ,mainly the children .

  I say just take them down, it isn't that difficult to put them back up after they leave . You also could just ask them to use a different bathroom .
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  Our teenagers first Christmas tree

  by truthseekeriam in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  we had fun putting together our first artificial tree last week, it came out so pretty!

  the lights and cheap ornaments just add to it.. we have been careful to close our blinds at night to avoid our jw neighbors from calling in the elders, that worked for a few days until we decided to go out for an early dinner and yes, i forgot to close the blinds!

  as we drove up to the garage door i could see the tree in the front room and started to freak out a little.

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  troubled mind

  I am so happy for you and your family . Doesn't it feel great to be moving on and slowly getting over the fear ? I remember feeling I had to hide the tree that first year. I look back now ,and feel a little silly .

  My husband too was not to game for having a tree ,but oh my goodness what a couple of years of freedom have done for him ! He now decorates the whole house outside with a computer run music and light show ! He is out of control ....in a good way .

  I am trying to make special memories with our adult kids .Sending each other presents , having them buy an ornament every year I can put up and save for each year . We search for vintage ornaments depicting the years we have missed . Family dinners ,baking cookies with younger relatives ect.
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  welcome new poster Jen1 on my thread 'making connections'

  by losingit in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  please welcome jen1 to the jwnforum.

  she posted for the first time on my thread 'making connections.

  ' let's all please encourage her!!!!.

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  troubled mind

  WELCOME JEN1 , You are not alone ....sadly so many good people have been beaten down emotionally in the organization just like you .

  ' I consider myself to be a kind hearted person. Caring. The problem is jws make you feel bad/wicked for not going on service/not attending meetings/not being on service meeting/etc etc etc. And that eats away at you. '

  Exactly how I began to feel while in the religion . Instead of being built up and engouraged for just being a caring good person you are torn down ,because 'your numbers' are not good enough .

  I am so glad you found this site and are now beginning the healing process . Be free . Enjoy your life .
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  Just got off the phone with my dad!

  by Kool Jo in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

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  had this conversion with my dad earlier today, hes an elder...both my parents were laid off during the recession, however, they saved and lived a decent life.

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  troubled mind

  Your Dad sounds like a very good guy . It is good to hear he is keeping his balance ,doesn't sound like they will be able to take further advantage of him monetary wise . Wish my in laws were so prudent . I worry about them taking on more thay can handle now that they are retired and on a budget .
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  My first set of Christmas Decor with pictures

  by confusedandalone in

  1. social
  2. family

  although we are not close to done yet i wanted to put up some pics of what we are doing over at the caa home.

  it is lots of fun putting this stufff up and the kids love it.

  the wife is in heaven because she always loved christmas time because as a kid it was something she totally enjoyed.

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  troubled mind

  Beautiful home ! Enjoy the festivities !
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  Interview with an Apostate: Rubadubdub

  by rubadubdub in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  tell us a little about yourself and your family.

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  married 35 years to a raised-in since five years old, now ex-jw.

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  troubled mind

  Thank you for sharing your story !

  We are around the same age ,and several things you said hit home with me . I too was greatly impacted by the horrible stories told to me in my childhood about torture ,persecution ,and death of loved ones at Armageddon. Who in their right mind teaches such things to innocent children ?

  Your statement below also struck a cord with me ..

  "I thought, “If one more person tells me my kids are going to die. . .” That was my tipping point. The bottom line was that I was never going to shun either of my children."

  Just recently a childhood friend of mine that had grown up as a Witness, made this exact same statement to me . She had married a non- Witness ,and all of her children had already left the religion . Through out her whole adult life she had been under constant ridicule from her large self-righteous Witness family . She tried to carry on as a JW ,but the cognitive dissonance with in her was eating her alive . Secretly she had been drinking to cope for years . Three yrs ago she was df'd ,and she confided in me, that constantly hearing her kids were going to die at Armageddon had been her final breaking point . Sadly the alcohol abuse had taken its toll ,she passed away a little more than a month ago . She was only 50 yrs old .... this religion is a sickness that takes it's toll on way to many innocent victims .
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  Interview with an Apostate: No Regrets

  by NoRegrets in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  tell us a little about yourself and your family.. i was raised in a small town congregation that was largely made up of 2 large ruling families/dynasties.

  i gave my first talk at age 5 that my mom wrote for me on note cards.

  my parents were the first.

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  troubled mind

  I enjoyed reading your story too . You write very well . I am sorry for the loss you feel ,and hope as time passes you and your own family will make new memories to fill your life to the full .
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  Interview with an Apostate: troubledmind

  by troubled mind in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  (she is just a person that is no longer troubled).

  we live in a small town in the midwest of the usa .

  i work several part time jobs ,do photography as a hobby ,and love collecting fossils ,rocks,and minerals .

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  troubled mind

  Simon , I am much better at talking than writing ! I appreciate the set of questions though, it helps to organize the thoughts . Once I figure out how to record myself I will make that video ....not very tech savy ,so please no one hold their breath waiting on me to get it done .